Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Some Bad News- Hospice

Quite a few things have changed in just a week. She has declined considerably. She has become very weak and has a lot of pain, sometimes uncontrollable.

This morning she was very weak and was unable to get up out off the couch to go to the bathroom, therefore i had to lift her a couple times. She was also unable to walk, because her legs would not support her, therefore her radiation appointment was cancelled. The doctor was called and some results were discussed.

(about a week and 1/2 ago- back story) She had been having radiation to the brain and thyroid because the cancer were in those areas. We were also told that the tumor in her uterus had grown a bit. Also a tumor on her side had surfaced and was increasing in size.

Today we were told that the radiation was not helping and that her tumors were increasing in size and that it was growing rapidly. Today, we were told that they were stopping all treatment because it is not helping.

The decision was made to have mom start hospice home care. There main goal is to keep her comfortable and reduce the pain. This is the most important thing! There will be a nurse that comes into the home everyday. This person will help with lifting and general care. They will deal with all of the medications and anything that revolves around her. We are meeting the nurse and aid tomorrow and will be discussing the schedule and what they plan on doing.

Mom started this battle with a fight and will continue to fight because she is full of courage, determination, love, humor, and support. Keep her in your thoughts!!!
Unitl i know more...
Love, Jess

7 comments:

  1. Your Mum is one strong woman and so are you!!! Sending love and healing your way. ~Hannah

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  2. Dear Jess, I have been reading all of your post and so many people have been praying for you and your family. Please know how very much we appreciate your information. I know it is not easy in any way. My parents both passed away from cancer and both had hospice. I know how very, very difficult it is but hold onto your family and friends, they will get you through anything! I am asked so often about your family. I have had some friends of your father's at Durham Elem. ask me what they can do, if you have time and any ideas, would you please let me know. wmarstaller@inbox.com. One of my friends was your mom's nurse at MMC, Tracy,she is praying for your family as well. Your father always treated my three children with the greatest repect and this family will always hold him in our hearts.
    With love and prayers, Wendy, Bruce, Makeighlee, Alison and Braden Marstaller

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  3. Jess - Please know that you and your family are in all of our thoughts and prayers. I also want to extend the offer of doing anything you or anyone need. Even something as simple as a meal or dessert or whatever. Please feel free to e-mail me cooking_bee@yahoo.com. Tammi Moore

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  4. Please tell your mom that she is in my prayers. She always brought a smile to my face. She remains in my thoughts & prayers as do you and your family. Renn

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  6. Marcia said...
    Rosemary has brought smiles to many faces. Her Patient Advocates Family knows this very well. We miss her smiling face, infectious laugh and the overall good nature. She has been a source of gentle guidence, support and caring for so many very appreciative patients ( who still ask about her daily) over the years. She is a true advocate through and through and passed this wonderful trait on to her family Bob and Jess who have skillfully and lovingly helped her through this difficult time. We are all praying for you Rosemary, Bob and Jess. Love, Marcia B.

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  7. Jess,

    You and your family are in my thoughts. You, your Mum and Dad, and Grandfather will always have a place in my heart. You are so brave! Please give my love to your family.

    Love, Em

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